Divorce is lousy for everyone. Even if it’s amicable. Even if it’s necessary. Divorce becomes much more complicated when children are involved, despite everyone’s best efforts. We all know someone who has gone through it as an adult, a child, and sometimes both. Huffington Post linked this article via twitter– full of tweets from those that have been there and lived through it to offer some sage advice. Some of the tweets are obvious adages, some not so much. Most people criticize the lack of depth that tweets provide, but I find that the more simply things are put, the quicker they are to absorb and integrate. If nothing else, these tweets provide a discussion point.
What makes a good parent? When does it get to the point where parents should be denied access to their children? And what do we do to break the cycle? What do we as a society owe to keeping a family intact and helping someone struggling to become a better parent? Every day I see cases of parents that are not equipped to parent, but that doesn’t mean they’re bad or abusive. I also see cases of kids that might be thriving elsewhere, but still the parental bond exists. There are no winners in these types of situation. Children grow up doomed to repeat the cycle and the system fails everyone. In this article, The Girls who haven’t come home, such a tragedy is told in detail. It’s easy to say in the abstract, “this person doesn’t deserve another chance to be a mother.” In reality, however, the effect of such a final statement produces a result that benefits no one.